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Just a reminder – Going through rough shit doesn’t mean you’re weak, it just means you’re going through rough shit. If you feel overwhelmed, talk to someone. A counselor, a clergy, a friend, even me. It gets better, and it does improve, even if it doesn’t feel like it will right now. One year ago the world lost a comic genius to the devastating effects of depression. There is help out there for all of us, and it truly can and will get better. Please – Talk to someone. And worth repeating, the number for the suicide hotline in America is 800-273-TALK.

Let’s take care of each other.


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*As I am struggling myself, it does help to talk.


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I ask you to indulge me for a second and read this story.

In 1990, a kid who all his life was labelled as “different,” got into Boston University by the skin of his teeth. He spent the first two years of his college career hanging on by a thread, on academic probation all four semesters. By the time he got into his Junior year, he’d discovered writing and journalism, and graduated with a somewhat-not-terrible 2.8 GPA.

He had a few professors tell him that being “different” wouldn’t be helpful to him as he entered “the real world,” but he never seemed to change. One professor actually shook his head at this kid at graduation, no doubt amazed that he’d been able to walk the stage and get a diploma.

That kid took his “different” outlook on life, and applied it the best ways he knew how. He quickly realized he wasn’t cut out for a “traditional” career, and got fired from his first few jobs for “not fitting in.” Throw in ADHD and the inability to know when to shut the hell up, and this kid was pretty much the poster child for the society of social misfits.

In late October of 1998, with nothing else to lose, he started out on his own, first with a PR firm, then after selling that, as a consultant. Eventually, he founded Help A Reporter Out, and the rest, as they say, is history.

At 4pm today, that “different” kid is again going to walk a stage at Boston University, this time to receive a “Distinguished Alumni” award from the same school where he struggled to not flunk out, 24 years ago.

So I say this to you: DIFFERENT IS GOOD. Being different gets you REMEMBERED, not simply recalled. Being different is the best wish I could have for you, for your children, and for your life. Being different will get you everything you could ever want. Maybe not right away, but in time, without question. And if you know someone who thinks a little different, doesn’t fit in the same circles as everyone else, or who, as my mom always said “walks to the beat of a different drummer”, and who might be struggling with it, take a second and tell them that they’re doing the right thing, and more importantly, tell them to embrace their different ways of being – Because it’s only when we’re different, and not like everyone else, that we can achieve the greatness locked away within all of us.

This is a pretty awesome day for me. 24 years ago, I can tell you with 100% certainty that I never, ever thought I’d be about to get any kind of award for being me. Quite the opposite, 24 years ago today, I had my doubts as to whether I’d even see 2014.

Embrace who you are. Love yourself, and never, ever let anyone tell you that you’re less than anyone else, simply because you might be different.

Thanks for listening, my friends.

Love, light, blue skies, and long surfs,

Peter Shankman



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1- Things I’ve learned (picked-up), on Twitter:

  • If you want to start a conversation with someone, tweet it (text it, email it, etc) in a question form.
  • When anyone/friends want to hear from you, they’ll tweet ya (contact you).

2- I’m not well. At times I have excruciating back/nerve pain, mostly due to Tarlov Cyst disease. My situation in being on disability, having all my furniture/belongings in a storage facility, living temporarily with my mom in her small one-bedroom apt., and helping/caring for her— has put me in a dismal state.

I’m on my 2nd week of Zoloft (antidepressants), and already thinking— I may need a stronger dose.

I was told about:  “every relationship evolves.” Those two Bold words, depressed the heck-out-me. More so—who I heard it from. I just had to research.

“The relationship evolves and either grows closer or further apart.” This had me thinking & sad-as-hell. This friend knows about my pain, and knows what I’m taking for depression. Why was I told this? To hear the truth? Well, it’s true—the Truth Hurts!

Have you ever wondered, if others knew the real You, they would not be interested in You?

(me) 3 things to remember for a friendship relationship:

  • Loyalty/Caring
  • Listening
  • Trust

Humpty Dumpty once said, “I know you think you understand what you thought I said, but I’m not sure you are aware that what you heard is what I meant.” (Alice in Wonderland, by Lewis Carroll)

Source:  http://70030.netministry.com/apps/articles/?articleid=32538&columnid=3844

“A World Happiness Database study found that people with close friendships are happier.”

Source:  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Friendship#cite_note-2

I feel, the only thing I did to be ‘Liked’ is ReTweet/Share, and Help.

This friend loves to make people happy. How come I feel worse? TIME HEALS. I’ll be okay. 🙂    

Note: I have a back illness, and I’m taking antidepressants due to so much. Be careful what you say to someone dealing with depression and be thoughtful, understanding, & caring. If you’re a friend, just be one!

Do Friends REALLY care?  Some do Not!

*Thinking* Are my conversations good enough? Are my interest? Am I good enough? 

A friend is someone who can see the truth and pain in you even when you are fooling everyone else.  -Unknown

Thank you for listening!

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by @LisaRedShoesPR (Lisa Cruz) and @tommytrc (Tommy)


“For the first installment of Lisa & Tommy, they talk about the SEC and WIAA and their policy blocking social media and live-blogging activities and sporting events. Should the governing body of an athletic association be able to say who takes pictures and what info is posted from the venue?”

<p><a href=”http://vimeo.com/6284758″>RedShoes Speak Lisa & Tommy #1</a> from <a href=”http://vimeo.com/redshoespr”>Lisa Cruz</a> on <a href=”http://vimeo.com”>Vimeo</a&gt;.</p>

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For over a year and a half I’ve been unable to work due to a disability, and therefore have been without any income.  It sure has been tough.  Besides going to the NEAF (Northeastern Astronomy Forum)  with my friend (thank goodness for her that she was  able to take me), I’m kind-of sort-of living a reclusive life, a side effect, I believe, of living with my particular disability.  I haven’t even had my hair touched up.  I could live fine without a lot of things, but I do like to keep up with my red hair.  It just makes me feel  a little better…on the inside.  My near constant excruciating back pain can be showing through my eyes, but for some reason if my hair is done… the overall persona looks great–even if only in my eyes and no one else’s. This is something that I do for myself.

So, my summer has been mainly spent keeping homebound, watching movies, TV shows, and reading books and magazines.  Twitter has been a FABULOUS PLUS!  Besides the several Smallville fans that I have met/chatted with on there, this summer I’ve met another friend (as honest & real as they come).   That friend is @Tommytrc .  I had started a Formspring.me (http://www.formspring.me/typertist) account, and I was immediately hooked to it.  I asked Tommy a lot of questions (I’m sure he can attest to this!) and he answered nearly all of them.  What a great sport!  Along with meeting/chatting with Tommy online, I’ve also met (meaning online) many other wonderful people such as:  @mmangen @tvorse @OhDaddy @WebGrrrrl @2sonsup @AmyStark @LisaRedShoesPR  @inklesstales @JessDennis  @VAinParadise

Oh, and more which are now following:  @JeffLast @alisonjns @PatrickCasey

@saraljeffers @nikkivoelzke @AFiebig @ShadowHart , etc.

Last but not least, worthy of particular note, is @harrisonloveall … An awesome guy to follow!

©Isabel (@TypeRtist) 2010


Asked on Twitter:  How was your Summer, or how is it going so far? 

RT @tommytrc:  summer was splendid. Seemed to go fast, but its not over yet… Lots of rain and lots of family time!!!!

RT @OhDaddy:  Summer is going by too quickly…

RT @WebGrrrrl:  FAB summer—Learned tons, met some great new people, had fun with friends & family—wish it weren’t nearly over!

RT @tvorse:  my summer is going good underwater but full of new friends!!

RT @Mikefalco:  Well I got to NYC,to vancouver and saw sv shootings so I think my summer it’s been aweeeeesome!

RT @PoisondRedApple:  my summer was great! I had to work a lot but I was still able to take a break from school. 🙂

RT @harrisonloveall:  It’s been amazing! The experiences I’ve had have been worth every single penny. Where is your blog now? I’m only seeing Kelsey’s!

RT @jaycee419:  Summer of 2010 was a learning experience for me. Also uncomfortably hot.

RT @athena606:  lk the word twitter? Lol cause it’s been awesome! Highlight going to #SDCC & hanging w/ so many of my lovely tweeps *hugs them*

RT @shedmonds:  All good, but zipping by too fast!  –been on 2 little holidays, catching up with friends and family and just starting an Interior Design course from home 🙂

RT @enidgisella:  Good. It was a busy summer for me at work so my Twitter time was kind of limited 😦 But enjoyed every moment!! 😀

RT @MartyMcPadden:  My summer started with a Disney trip and will end with my brother’s wedding. Now that’s what I call a nice pair of bookends. 🙂

RT @Lia_Lane:  Summer crawling by uneventful for me but thanks to twitter I can still keep in touch with my friends & beloved show, Smallville

RT @Secoh2000: It’s been enlightening (art wise), depressing and humbling (life wise) and beautiful (as summers always are)

RT @Melissaclse:  thank you!!!!!! that’s really nice of you! My summer has been AWESOME, how about you? *big hugs*  – about my summer, I had a lot of fun, met new people and a lot of  things made me happy! it was one of the best summers of my life. 🙂

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Why. . .Just Is!

I sometimes get asked (or not) why I usually sign off on correspondence with friends, with “Just Is,” so I figured it’s time to explain how and why that signature came about…

Just Is!

Yep. My name is… Is. Just Is™, that is.

This all came about when I was attending school at Gibbs College. In the evenings while studying and reviewing my assignments, I would often e-mail my friend, Cathy.

As usual, when writing a letter, a note, or an e-mail one ends their letter/note with a closing such as sincerely, fondly, or by saying love, _?_.
I would always close simply as…
Love, Is… The “Is” of course, was short for Isabel.
Cathy said it sounded like the “two little naked kids.” I asked for clarification on what two little naked kids (I had forgotten). She elaborated that they were the cartoon naked kids that were printed in the comic section of the Newspaper. The comics would often read, for example: “Love is…” , followed by different phrases, such as “sharing your ice-cream.” After that, I felt like the closing “Love Is,” just begged for added phrase, so I then took to writing ‘Love, “Just Is™” ‘ when closing a letter, note, or e-mail.

And that’s how it all started.

©2009 Isabel Cristina Alvarez  aka Just Is™

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You might be best friends one year,

pretty good friends the next year,

don’t talk that often the next year,

and don’t want to talk at all the year after that.

So, I just wanted to say,

even if I never talk to you again in my life,

you are special to me and you have made a difference in my life,

I look up to you, respect you, and truly cherish you.


Let old friends know you haven’t forgotten them,

and tell new friends you never will.

Remember, everyone needs a friend,

someday you might feel like you have no friends at all,

just remember this…

and take comfort in knowing

somebody out there cares about you and always will.

I love you… and don’t need any other reason than to… just love.

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